On Leaving My Job

From the age of 16, I knew I wanted to be a designer, specifically graphic. I couldn’t imagine myself otherwise. So when things had gone downhill the past few months and interviews were few and far between, my conviction as a designer started to waver. Was I even good enough to be a designer? Or…

Dinner is Important to a Relationship

For a normal 9-5 person, most of us spend 1-2 hours of daily commute. We race out the door in the morning to get to work on time. We race out of the office to get home to spend as much time as possible with our loved ones. But it never feels like enough time…

First, Comes The Ring

It’s a firm belief of mine that the destination of my life is not marriage, family, and children. There is and will never be a destination for me because life is too wonderful to have an ending. I’ve always followed the belief that finding happiness by means of traveling, exploring the world, creating art, and…

Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

One of the things I love most about my boyfriend is that he’s well traveled. I’m a traveler at heart, a dreamer by day, and a writer at night so I always knew the person I would end up with would enjoy traveling as much as I would. Traveling is not just about hopping on…

Are You Ever Ready?

It seems apropos that I read an article by Sasha Sagan on her father, Carl Sagan, the day before learning of the death of someone close to me and my boyfriend. I think, in part, we knew that her time was coming to an end. We both know time is not a fixed object, aging…

Lesson 1: Recognizing and Acknowledging Anger

As part of my new year’s resolution, I had decided to learn to control my anger and in turn, started to look out for ways to approach it: through reading, finding a meditation class, and taking time out from work. I’ve recognized that my anger comes from a direct contact with stupidity, ignorance, laziness, and…

What Is A Job But A Game?

A job is a job is a job. At the end of the day, you know you need it to pay the bills. Growing up, my parents never talked about being happy or fulfilled at their job. They only worked to feed us, to have a roof over our head, to have a car to…

Reasons Why I’m a Quiz Addict

A quiz I helped designed for an old job. That was the fun old times. I love quizzes. I can’t get enough of them. If I could, I would spend all day taking all sorts of quizzes. Once I start, I cannot stop. It’s such an addiction. Worst is when I find a quiz I…

Busy is a Decision

Debbie Millman: 10 Things I Wish I Knew Sooner Rather Than Later Recently, I went to a talk about rejection—in particular, how rejection can shape your life, hosted by Designers + Geeks. The speaker was Debbie Millman, the president of AIGA. She spoke candidly about her experiences that led up to her role, with lots…

“Ring”-ing the New Year

I had never doubted my feelings for him nor his towards me. But I would not go so far as to say our relationship is a dream with roses and happiness all the time. After all, a relationship is about growing and changing with someone and like many changes, it’s hard and often scary. But…

2014 New Year’s Resolution

I finally got a chance to get around to making new years resolution. 2012 was a great year because I made only 3 resolution. I upped to 6 resolutions for 2013 and it didn’t turn out well. The only resolution I was able to keep was waking up at 7AM every day, including weekends. They…

The Concept of a Cramped Heart

When I was in college, I took a philosophy class. Specifically, Philosophy of Happiness and it was taught by a nun, since I attended a “Catholic affiliated college”—the term used in order for the school to maintain its government grants, which I partook in some of those grants. It was a very broad topic, allowing…

Empty Compliments and Empty Pockets

I always believed that love would be enough to keep a relationship binding. I believed that if I loved him enough, maybe even more a smidgeon more than him, I could keep the relationship together. I would shower him with compliments, praises, and gifts, and all my love. Isn’t that what all the movies have…

Move to Astoria

Finally, moved into to my own apartment! I used to live alone for a long time. For over 4 years in fact and loved every moment of it. When the opportunity arose that my old college roommate needed a roommate in her parents house, I moved in, giving up much of my autonomy, but enjoyed…

Turning 30 in less than 24 hours

Technically, I finished my writing challenge already. However, I haven’t quite hit 30 so this is my last post as a 29 years old!

Have Happiness, Will Travel

My goal in life has never been to have a family or get married. And it’s still pretty true. I want a child, I want love, but if I don’t have any of them, my life doesn’t end there. It goes on.

How I Met Mr. Darcy

I love listening to couples recount their first meeting, especially those with mileage. More often than naught, the stories are retold with an element of comedy. One man said he would never marry an Italian woman but his wife of 40+ years is this soft spoken, gentle Italian woman, one-of-a-kind! How romantic that their first…

6 Basic Lessons in a Relationship

I am definitely not a model to look up to if you want to know about the ideal relationship. I have made a lot of mistakes in that area. What I do know is that relationships take time, lots of mistakes, and lots of heartache. But many joy comes from it.

Mini-me!

My niece, Lilah For a long time, I never wanted children. I never wanted a marriage. I wanted love. I wanted to be with someone. But marriage and children were commitments that I was not confident I could fulfill and keep. They say you are the product of your parents. Therefore, would not a divorced…

Mr. Darcy and Me

The first time I heard of Pride and Prejudice, I was 13 years old. It was a boring weekend and I decided to watch TV. We didn’t grow up with cable and a million channels so it was PBS, my turn-to-trusted network! They were airing the 1960s black and white version of Pride and Prejudice….